The curve balls of life
It’s been a while since I have posted anything about my family, but after the news we just got I thought I would share a bit.
If you have been following this blog for a while, you will know that my youngest son Nathan has been diagnosed with PDD-NOS (pervasive development disorder-not otherwise specified). PDD-NOS falls under the autism spectrum. He is 3 years old, but at the level of a child half his age.
As it turns out, after a visit to a developmental pediatrician, our eldest son Logan may fall under the autism spectrum as well. We have been concerned with his social skills for a while, but having a diagnoses of autism was kinda hard to hear. You start to blame yourself and a feeling of failing your child does tend to happen. It is to early to tell anything yet with more tests to follow, so all we can do is wait.
All I can ask for as a father is to ensure my boys are happy, whether or not Logan turns out to have autism is a mute point. Of coarse I have moments where I feel like I have failed my boys, like I have neglected to protect them. Then I have to tell myself that I have done my job, Logan is a happy child and as long as I do everything in my power to keep him a happy child, I have not failed.
Be them doctors, lawyers or the guy behind the counter at the gas station… As long as my boys are happy I will be proud of them.
Cheers.
Tags: Children, Kids, London, Ontario, Photography, Portraits
December 7th, 2009 at 11:20 am
You have beautiful boys, and they seem very happy from what I’ve seen. You and Carrie are doing your best and it really shows to someone watching from the sidelines. Most of all I know you love them to pieces and that they’re the centre of your world, and really they can’t ask for anymore then that ! Also looking at it from the perspective that they’re going to have a few more obstacles in life to overcome, it will only mean they’ll build that much more character in their lives, especially from the support of loving parent like yourselves.
December 9th, 2009 at 1:09 am
your boy is beautiful, and with the support of you and your wife, he can do anything.
December 11th, 2009 at 6:04 pm
We all wish we could protect our kids from everything, but in the end, our most important job is to love them with all we’ve got no matter what, and it sounds like you’re doing a wonderful job of that. Those are beautiful portraits, too
December 15th, 2009 at 10:02 am
wow look at that kid! his hair and his freckles! He looks like an adorable modern-day, Tom Sawyer.
What a cutey and with an obviously loving dad he’s gonna do great.
December 29th, 2009 at 1:12 am
Whatever you do, don’t play the blame game! Who knows how or why our little ones have any number of disorders or conditions. What really matters is how you deal with it now, and it looks like you and your wife are doing a good job! It doesn’t matter if a person is “normal” or has a condition or a disability of some sort….what we all need is love and security, and as long as you provide those, they’ll do well and thrive. Your gorgeous sons look to me like they’re thriving.Quit beating yourself up and keep up the good work!